YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEd

Neurodiverse Marriage, Burnout & Healing with Lauren & Luke | ADHD, RSD & Attachment (Part 2)

In this powerful Part 2 episode of Your Neurodiverse Relationship Podcast (Season 5), neurodiverse relationship expert Jodi Carlton continues her candid conversation with married couple Luke and Lauren Smallcomb.
Together, they open up about: - Navigating ADHD and demand avoidance in marriage - Overcoming anxious and avoidant attachment styles - What happens when one partner is an overfunctioner - Burnout, masking, and learning to communicate better - The difference between acceptance and accommodation - Red flags vs. recoverable challenges in neurodiverse relationships.
👉 Here's Part 1 in case you missed it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LVdE9-xbzKI 
🔹 Timestamps:
00:00 – Introduction to Season Five
00:57 – Welcome to Part 2 with Luke & Lauren
01:11 – Challenges and Realizations in Marriage
01:42 – Understanding ADHD and Attachment Styles
03:54 – The Role of Communication
06:55 – Personality Differences and the Enneagram
11:41 – Shifting Roles and Responsibilities
14:47 – Facing Trauma Together
18:36 – Balancing Support and Independence
22:50 – Navigating Demand Avoidance in Relationships
24:07 – Understanding Overfunctioning and Burnout
26:27 – Addressing Imbalance in Effort and Insight
28:09 – Recognizing Abusive Patterns and Seeking Help
32:02 – The Importance of Acceptance and Safety
37:39 – Final Thoughts and Relationship Advice
44:42 – Conclusion and Neurodiversity Resources
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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.
I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:
💬 TRY THE NEW NEUROTRANSLATOR APP! A client once told me "I need JodiGPT." Well, this is as close as you're gonna get. This app provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you're in. Use it in your relationships to minimize conflict and understand each other better! Developed by Michael Daniel who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse marriage.
💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.
🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform . You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts
💁‍♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe.
📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on neurodiversity! Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!
📱 Connect with me: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton 

Healing Together: Trauma, Growth, and Neurodiversity with Lauren and Luke Smallcomb

In this powerful episode of Your Neurodiverse Relationship Podcast Season 5, host Jodi Carlton sits down with trauma healing experts and married neurodiverse couple Luke and Lauren Smallcomb, who live in Thailand and run a worldwide trauma-healing practice called Flourish Therapy.
Together, they open up about their own marriage, healing past trauma, working through attachment styles, and what it really takes to make a neurodiverser elationship not only work—but thrive. They also share their professional insights into neuroplasticity, rejection sensitivity dysphoria (RSD), attachment wounds, and how their personal growth journey empowered them to help other couples navigate similar challenges.
 
👉 This is Part 1 of a 2-part conversation, so be sure to subscribe and stay tuned for Part 2!
🔹 Timestamps: 00:00 – Welcome to Season 5: Can Neurodiverse Relationships Work?
00:57 – Meet Luke & Lauren Smallcomb: Trauma coaches living in Thailand 02:58 – Lauren’s journey from nursing to trauma & brain healing through neuroplasticity
04:08 – What is neuroplasticity & how does trauma impact the brain?
05:50 – Luke’s path to counseling & the impact of neuroscience on his practice
09:54 – Starting their own practice, Flourish Therapy
13:29 – How lived experience changes how you show up professionally 14:04 – Having a better understanding of neurodiversity. Moving away from a disease model
15:37 – Lauren and Luke open up about their own marriage
16:42 – Understanding capacity in a neurodiverse relationship
17:40 – Luke shares early misunderstandings from masking and social fatigue 18:18 – How rejection sensitivity dysphoria (RSD) affected their communication
22:05 – Attachment styles & the over-/under-functioning dynamic
27:12 – Stay tuned for Part 2 in the next episode!
More About Luke & Lauren
Luke is a Mental Health Practitioner, and Lauren is a Mind-Body Practitioner. The heart of their work is guiding folks who have experienced trauma out of dysregulation and chronic symptoms into joy, connection, and whole-body abundance. Their work is neuro-affirming and abuse-informed. Together, they cohost the Filled to Flourish podcast, where they explore the complex journey of healing and wholeness, especially for those whose lives haven’t been what they expected. Luke and Lauren live with their kids and dogs in Chiang Mai, Thailand.
https://flourishtherapy.co/
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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.
I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:
💬 TRY THE NEW NEUROTRANSLATOR APP!
Use Code "JODI" to Save 30% https://neurotranslator.ai 
A client once told me "I need JodiGPT." Well, this is as close as you're gonna get. This app provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you're in. Use it in your relationships to minimize conflict and understand each other better! Developed by Michael Daniel who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse marriage.
💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.
🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform. You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts
💁‍♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe.
📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on neurodiversity! Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!
📱 Connect with me: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton

How to Make a Neurodiverse Relationship Work | Expert Panel Insights & Strategies

Can Neurodiverse Relationships Work? 💙 In this episode, a panel of neurodiverse relationship experts—therapists, coaches, and authors—share real insights and proven strategies to help neurodiverse couples thrive.
What You’ll Learn:
👉 Success stories from neurodiverse couples
👉 How nervous system regulation impacts relationships
👉 The role of language, expectations & teamwork
👉 Key strategies for overcoming challenges
 
Meet the Experts in This Episode:
🔹 Laura Schreiner – Licensed counselor (IL) specializing in neurodivergent individuals & couples. https://www.laurasnc.com/
🔹 Jana Smith – Resilience & nervous system coach, expert in chronic illness & Cassandra Syndrome recovery. https://www.janamsmith.com/
🔹 Natalie Roberts – Award-winning neurodiverse relationship coach, co-founder of Loving Difference & co-host of Myth Busting Neurodiverse Relationships. https://natalieroberts.com/
🔹 Heather Parks – Somatic coach specializing in neurodiverse families, co-host of Loving Difference & Myth Busting Neurodiverse Relationships. https://heatherparks.co.uk/
🔹 Mona Kay, MSW, Ph.D. – Host of Neurodiverse Love Podcast, creator of Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards & Workbook, and organizer of the Neurodiverse Love Conference. https://www.neurodiverselove.com/
🔹 Heidi Hackney – ICF-certified coach, mentor, & co-founder of Autistic Voiceover Artists (AVA), supporting autistic adults in the voiceover industry. https://thecan-docoach.com/
🔹 Dr. Stephanie C. Holmes – Autism researcher, ordained minister, author of Uniquely Us, and host of Neurodiverse Christian Couples Podcast. https://www.holmesasr.com/
🔹 Robin Tate, M.A., M.S., BCC, ACC, CAS – Neurodiverse couples coach, certified autism specialist, and founder of Robin Tate LLC. https://www.robintatellc.com/
🔹 Barbara Grant, MMFT, CAS, NDCC – Neurodiverse couples coach, co-host of Neurodiverse Couples Coaches Corner, and co-author of Uniquely Us. https://bg-hc.com/
🔹 Debbie King – Counselor specializing in neurodiverse relationships, trauma, & toxic family dynamics, offering global support via Zoom. https://www.facebook.com/WellingboroughCounsellor/
🔹 David Glick – Founder of Triad Psych in Marietta, GA, a clinic specializing in neurodiversity, learning disabilities, and ADHD. Former special education teacher with a Master's in Special Ed and Social Work, he has worked in the mental health field for over 20 years. https://triadpsych.org/
🔔 Subscribe & Follow for expert insights, personal stories, and actionable relationship advice.
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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.
I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:
💬 TRY THE NEW NEUROTRANSLATOR APP! https://neurotranslator.ai A client once told me "I need JodiGPT." Well, this is as close as you're gonna get. This app provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you're in. Use it in your relationships to minimize conflict and understand each other better! Developed by Michael Daniel who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse marriage.
💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.
🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform . You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts 
💁‍♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe.
📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more.
Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on neurodiversity!
📱 Connect with me: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton 

Can AI Save Neurodiverse Relationships? The NeuroTranslator Tool

In part two of this inspiring episode, we continue our conversation with Michael & Elise Daniel and special guest Mona Kay, host of the Neurodiverse Love Podcast 🎙️, about an incredible AI-powered tool transforming neurodiverse relationships: NeuroTranslator 🧠💬
Michael, the creator of the NeuroTranslator Tool (formerly The Autistic Translator), shares how he developed this tool to help neurodiverse couples bridge communication gaps. We dive deep into how the NeuroTranslator Tool can translate misunderstandings, reduce conflict, and foster empathy in relationships where one or both partners are #autistic, #ADHD, or #neurotypical—turning frustration into connection.
📌 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
👉 The inspiration behind the NeuroTranslator Tool
👉 How the tool helps neurodiverse couples overcome misunderstandings
👉 Real-life success stories of how it’s used in Michael and Elise’s marriage
👉 Insights from Mona Kay on how tools like this can support neurodiverse love
Whether you’re in a neurodiverse relationship or simply interested in how technology can enhance emotional connection, this episode is packed with actionable takeaways and inspiration.
 
🌟 Try NeuroTranslator today and save 30% with promo code "JODI": https://neurotranslator.ai  
 
Did you miss Episode 1 of the Podcast? Watch it here: https://youtu.be/F9FgwHSSgcA?feature=shared  
Don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more episodes! 🔔
#autismandlove #adhdrelationships #communicationtools #relationshipadvice #neurodiversitytools ___________________
👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.
I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent.
My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
 
Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:
💬 TRY THE NEW NEUROTRANSLATOR APP! https://neurotranslator.ai 
A client once told me "I need JodiGPT." Well, this is as close as you're gonna get. This app provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you're in. Use it in your relationships to minimize conflict and understand each other better! Developed by Michael Daniel who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse marriage.
💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.
🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform. You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts
💁‍♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe.
📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on neurodiversity!
📱 Connect with me: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton 

Can Neurodiverse Relationships Work? Here's One Couple Who Figured Out How

Season 5 - Episode 1, Part 1: In this exciting premiere episode (part 1 of 2), I’m joined by Michael and Elise Daniel, a neurodiverse couple who’ve faced significant challenges in their marriage due to miscommunication. Michael, a late-diagnosed autistic database analyst with a special interest in AI 🤖, shares how misunderstandings between him and Elise led to feelings of hurt for both partners. But rather than letting these challenges pull them apart, they used them as fuel to create a unique solution—a translator tool that transformed the way they communicate. 🛠️✨
I’m also joined by the incredible Mona Kay, host of the Neurodiverse Love Podcast 🎙️, to discuss the deeper dynamics of communication in neurodiverse relationships. Together, we explore how tools like Michael’s can bridge the gap between partners, fostering understanding, empathy, and connection. 💕
If you’ve ever felt like you and your partner are “speaking different languages,” this episode is for you! 🙌 Learn how small changes and creative solutions can lead to big breakthroughs. 🌟
Topics We Cover:
👉 The impact of miscommunication in neurodiverse relationships
👉 Michael’s journey to a late autism diagnosis and how it shaped their marriage
👉 How their translator tool works and how it’s helped their relationship thrive
👉 Insights from myself, #JodiCarlton, a neurodiverse relationship expert and Mona Kay on navigating neurodiverse love
🎥 Listen now and discover how neurodiverse couples can turn challenges into opportunities for deeper connection! Don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more inspiring episodes. 🔔✨
More on Michael & Elise: Michael and Elise know first hand the challenges of neurodiverse communication. Michael is autistic, Elise is neurotypical, and they are parents to neurodivergent children - making their home a blend of different ways of thinking and communicating. As Michael began to unmask later in adulthood, he and Elise regularly found themselves misunderstanding each other, despite their best intentions. Small miscommunications led to painful frustrations, highlighting the invisible language barrier between their different neurotypes.
Determined to bridge this gap, Michael combined his expertise in AI with his personal experience at home to create "NeuroTranslator", an AI powered app designed to help autistic, ADHD, AuDHD and neurotypical individuals communicate more clearly with each other. What began as a personal project quickly went viral, resonating with thousands and gaining recognition from large media outlets like Reuters and The Washington Post. NeuroTranslator is now on a mission to help others navigate neurodiverse relationships, proving that true connection isn’t about speaking the same way, but about understanding each other.
Try NeuroTranslator today and save 30% with promo code "JODI": https://neurotranslator.ai  
♥️ Check out the latest blog "What Makes Neurodiverse Last?" featuring Michael and Elise: https://jodicarlton.com/what-makes-neurodiverse-love-last/  
#AutismAndLove #ADHDRelationships #CommunicationTools #LateDiagnosisAutism #RelationshipAdvice ____________________________
👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships. Below are some of the neurodivergent resources
I offer:
💬 TRY THE NEW AUTISTIC TRANSLATOR: 🎉 Use Code JODI for 30% Off! A client once told me, "I need JodiGPT." Well, this is as close as you're gonna get. https://www.neurotranslator.ai/
💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.
🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/  I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙️ PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast  Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform . You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts
💁‍♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe.
📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on neurodiversity!
Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!
📱 Connect with me: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton 

Why CoDependency Happens in Neurodiverse Relationships Pt 2

This is Part 2 of my two-part series on #codependency in #neurodiverserelationships. In this video, I dive into why codependency tends to develop in these relationships and how you can start breaking the cycle.
If you haven't watched Part 1, where I discuss the 6 signs of codependency, be sure to check it out first: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BlcRXJG3Uck  
 
💡 Topics Covered in This Video:
00:30 Executive dysfunction and imbalance in shared responsibilities
01:57 Hyperfocus on harmony and avoiding conflict
02:25 Childhood conditioning and the role of peacemaking behaviors
04:05 Societal pressure to "fix" or normalize a partner’s behaviors
05:09 The two-way dynamic of taking on too much vs. avoiding responsibility
05:45 How to set healthy boundaries and encourage shared responsibility
07:52 Prioritizing self-care, open communication, and relationship balance
 
🛠️ Want to improve communication and reduce codependent behaviors? Check out my communication course at https://jodicarlton.com/courses/
🔔 Comment below with your thoughts and experiences—I’d love to hear from you! And if this video helps, like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell so you don’t miss future content.
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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships. I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:
💬 TRY THE NEW NEUROTRANSLATOR APP! A client once told me "I need JodiGPT." Well, this is as close as you're gonna get. This app provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you're in. Use it in your relationships to minimize conflict and understand each other better! Developed by Michael Daniel who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse marriage.
💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.
🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙️ PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform . You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts
💁‍♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe.
📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on neurodiversity! Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!
📱 Connect with me: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton 

6 Signs of Codependency in Neurodiverse Relationships Pt 1 of 2

Codependency is a common yet often misunderstood pattern in neurodiverse relationships. In this video, Jodi Carlton, a neurodiverse relationship expert, explores six key signs of codependency in neurodiverse couples, how these dynamics develop, and why recognizing them is the first step toward building a healthier, more balanced relationship.
💡 Key Topics Covered:
01:30 Overcompensating for Executive Dysfunction
02:18 Emotional Over-Responsibility
02:55 Avoiding Personal Needs
03:36 Caretaking Instead of Partnership
04:00 The Cycle of Resentment and Guilt
04:54 Overexplaining in Relationships
06:40 Check Out Part 2: Why Codependency Happens in Neurodiverse Relationships
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tsx3y8Jhhpc
Whether one or both partners are #autistic, #ADHD, or otherwise neurodivergent, understanding these dynamics can help partners establish better boundaries, healthier communication, and mutual respect.
🔔 Watch Part 2 to dive deeper into why codependency develops in neurodiverse relationships and how to break the cycle: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tsx3y8Jhhpc Don't forget to like, subscribe, and turn on notifications so you don’t miss future insights! ____________________________
👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships. I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:
💬 TRY THE NEW NEUROTRANSLATOR APP! A client once told me "I need JodiGPT." Well, this is as close as you're gonna get. This app provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you're in. Use it in your relationships to minimize conflict and understand each other better! Developed by Michael Daniel who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse marriage.
💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.
🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙️ PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform . You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts 💁‍♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe.
📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on neurodiversity! Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!
📱 Connect with me: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton

Navigating Valentine’s Day in a Neurodiverse Relationship – Expectations & Communication Tips

Valentine’s Day can bring excitement, pressure, or even confusion—especially in a neurodiverse relationship!
Whether you’re neurotypical, autistic, or have ADHD, understanding and communicating expectations for this day can make all the difference.
In this episode, I’ll walk you through:
✅ How neurodivergent and neurotypical partners may approach Valentine’s Day differently
✅ Common misunderstandings and emotional triggers
✅ Practical strategies for clear, pressure-free communication
✅ How to create a celebration (or skip it!) in a way that works for both of you
 
🔔 Don’t forget to subscribe for more insights into neurodiverse relationships!
#NeurodiverseRelationships #ValentinesDay #CommunicationTips #Autism #ADHD #Relationships #JodiCarlton
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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.
I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:
💬 TRY THE NEW NEUROTRANSLATOR APP! A client once told me "I need JodiGPT." Well, this is as close as you're gonna get. This app provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you're in. Use it in your relationships to minimize conflict and understand each other better! Developed by Michael Daniel who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse marriage.
💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.
🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙️ PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform . You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts
💁‍♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe.
📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on neurodiversity! Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!
📱 Connect with me: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton

Neurodiversity-Friendly New Year’s Resolutions: Start 2025 with Success!

Are you tired of traditional New Year’s resolutions that feel overwhelming or unrealistic? In this video, I’ll guide you through creating neurodiversity-friendly resolutions tailored to your unique strengths, challenges, and goals. Whether you’re neurodivergent yourself or supporting someone who is, these strategies will help you design resolutions that are achievable, empowering, and sustainable.
We’ll cover:
✔️ Breaking big goals into manageable steps
✔️ Using visual aids and reminders to stay on track
✔️ Prioritizing self-compassion over perfection
✔️ Embracing your strengths and working with your brain, not against it 💬 What are your goals for 2025? Share them in the comments below!
 
📺 Don’t forget to LIKE, SUBSCRIBE, and hit the 🔔 for more tips on thriving in neurodiverse relationships and daily life. Let’s make 2025 your most authentic and fulfilling year yet! 🌟
#Neurodiversity #NewYearsResolutions #Neurodivergent #ADHD #Autism #GoalSetting #selfgrowth
 
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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.
I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:
 TRY THE NEW NEUROTRANSLATOR APP!  A client once told me "I need JodiGPT."  Well, this is as close as you're gonna get. This app provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you're in.  Use it in your relationships to minimize conflict and understand each other better! Developed by Michael Daniel who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse marriage.   
💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most. 🤩
CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
💁‍♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe.
📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on neurodiversity! Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/neurodiverserelationships
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton

Tackling the Holidays - with Ashley and Randall

The holidays can be challenging, especially in neurodiverse relationships. ☃️🎄🎅 In this sneak peek from my upcoming podcast season, Your Neurodiverse Relationship, I sit down with Ashley and Randall, a #neurodiversecouple, to talk about how they navigate #holidaystress
✨ From managing routines and avoiding surprises to creating backup plans and recovery days, Ashley and Randall share life-changing tips that have transformed their holidays and strengthened their relationship. Whether it’s using a code word like “mistletoe” to signal overwhelm or planning ahead for the unexpected, their insights are sure to inspire you.
🌟 Key Takeaways:
0:00 – Introduction: Sneak Peek of Podcast Season 5
1:01 – Meet Ashley and Randall: Tackling Holiday Challenges
1:22 – Why Surprises Are Stressful for Autistic Partners
2:33 – Gifts and Uncertainty: Finding Solutions 🎁
3:30 – The Importance of Routine During the Holidays
4:30 – Life Hack: Plan A, Plan B, Plan C for Social Events
5:30 – Using Code Words to Manage Overwhelm (e.g., "Mistletoe") 6:10 – Recovery Days: Essential for Managing Post-Holiday Stress 🛋️
7:12 – Jodi’s Holiday Course and Resources
👉 Don’t forget to subscribe to my channel and follow my podcast to catch the full episode when it airs next year! Need help navigating the holidays now? Check out my ‘Pay What You Can Afford’ Holiday Stress Buster Toolkit at https://jodicarlton.com/courses/
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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.
I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an #autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:
💬 TRY THE NEW AUTISTIC TRANSLATOR TOOL! https://autistictranslator.com/?via=jodi Provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you enter at the prompt. Developed by Michael Daniel, who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse relationships.
💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, and toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.
🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙️ PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform. You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts
💁‍♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe.
📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/neurodiverserelationships
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton