YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEd
Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert in mixed neurotype relationship dynamics and communication. Her personal, but direct, style of educating and coaching is a favorite of both neurodivergent and neurotypical partners around the globe. Her unique blend of personal experience in her own neurodiverse relationships, as well as her professional expertise, positions her to understand both autistic and non-autistic individuals. She bridges the communication gap for couples with a blame-free mind-set, and a goal of clarity.
Episodes
Episodes
Wednesday Mar 20, 2024
”When You Stop Recognizing Yourself, There’s Something Very Wrong”
Wednesday Mar 20, 2024
Wednesday Mar 20, 2024
In this 5-episode podcast series, I (Jodi Carlton, a neurodiverse relationship expert), and Mona Kay of the Neurodiverse Love Podcast, share very personal experiences from our own marriages to neurodiverse partners. We share a five-step approach for assessing relationship challenges and navigating a path forward. The podcast covers toxic dynamics, the importance of understanding neurodiversity in relationships, and offers support and strategies for communication, connection, and making difficult relationship choices. By sharing our journeys and insights, Mona and I aim to help you feel seen, understood, and less alone in your own neurodiverse relationships, but also to give you a framework for navigating your own neurodiverse relationship.
00:00 Welcome to Season Four: Navigating YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship
01:46 Introducing the Support Group: A Safe Space for All Neurotypes
04:41 Decision Making in Neurodiverse Relationships
06:22 Understanding the Stages of Assessing Relationship Challenges
11:14 Triage: Assessing the Risk in Your Relationship
16:41 Reflecting on Personal Experiences with Neurodiversity and Relationships
26:36 The Importance of Assessing Needs and Risks in Relationships
29:39 Unpacking the Past: Stories of Miscommunication and Conflict
30:17 The Christmas Eve Incident: A Tale of Family Dynamics
32:27 Navigating Neurodivergence and Codependency
33:47 The Shift from Romance to Reality
35:30 Unveiling Incompatibilities
40:19 Recognizing Red Flags and Toxicity
52:08 The Journey to Self-Recognition and Healing
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.
QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown.
http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
YouTube: @jodicarlton
Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
Monday Mar 18, 2024
Season 4 is Coming! 5 Steps for Navigating YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship
Monday Mar 18, 2024
Monday Mar 18, 2024
In season four of 'YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship' podcast, Jodi Carlton teams up with Mona Kay from the “Neurodiverse Love” podcast to dive deep into personal experiences and professional insights on managing neurodiverse relationships. They discuss five key steps for assessing relationship challenges, whether it involves working together with a partner for a better connection or realizing it's time to part ways. With over two decades of experience in neurodiverse marriages, they share their own stories of navigating love, making tough decisions, and finding strategies that might be non-traditional but effective. This season aims to make listeners feel seen, understood, and less alone in their experiences. The first episode airs on Wednesday, March 20th.
00:00 Welcome to Season Four: Exploring Neurodiverse Relationships
00:14 Introducing the Co-Host and Our Mission
00:31 Five Key Steps for Navigating Relationship Challenges
00:58 Personal Journeys: Learning from Our Own Relationships
01:15 The Importance of Sharing Vulnerable Experiences
01:35 Join Us for the Journey
Wednesday Mar 13, 2024
BONUS: ”We’re all a little narcissistic.” Debunking This Myth
Wednesday Mar 13, 2024
Wednesday Mar 13, 2024
Debunking the Myth that Everyone is Narcissistic
Jodi Carlton, a neurodiversity expert and relationship coach who also specializes in personality disorders, addresses a dangerous myth that everyone has narcissistic traits. She emphasizes the distinction between common human behaviors and the destructive characteristics of narcissistic personality disorder. Jodi highlights specific traits exclusive to narcissism, such as enjoying others' pain for personal gain and manipulating others by playing the victim. Her message clarifies how this myth minimizes the impact on individuals who are abused by narcissists, and aims to educate listeners on the true nature of narcissistic behavior versus normal human flaws and dysfunction.
00:00 Introduction
00:10 Debunking the Myth: Everyone is Narcissistic
00:42 Understanding Human Traits vs Narcissistic Traits
01:02 Identifying Narcissistic Traits
01:36 The Narcissist's Use of Victimhood
01:58 Power and Control in Narcissism
02:15 Conclusion: We're Not All a Little Bit Narcissistic
Wednesday Mar 06, 2024
BONUS: Autistic Narcissists Are Dangerous!
Wednesday Mar 06, 2024
Wednesday Mar 06, 2024
Autism, Narcissism, and Dangerous Myths
In this episode, neurodiversity expert and relationship coach Jodi Carlton explains the distinctions and potential comorbidity between autism and narcissistic personality disorder. She emphasizes that while both conditions can exist in the same individual, they are fundamentally unrelated, with autism being neurodevelopmental and genetic, and narcissism being potentially linked to genetics and social learning. Jodi dispels dangerous myths suggesting that narcissistic traits are universal, pointing out the unique and harmful characteristics of narcissistic personality disorder that differentiate it from common human behaviors. She highlights the risks posed by individuals who exhibit both autism and extreme narcissism, including their potentially destructive actions and lack of regard for others' wellbeing.
00:00 Introduction00:10 Understanding Autism and Narcissism: A Comparative Analysis00:38 The Dangers of Autistic Narcissists01:12 Human Traits vs Narcissistic Traits01:35 The Myth of Universal Narcissism01:46 The Impact of Narcissistic Abuse02:27 Identifying Narcissistic Traits03:23 The Power Dynamics of Narcissism03:40 Conclusion
Wednesday Feb 28, 2024
BONUS: Why does an autistic partner lie?
Wednesday Feb 28, 2024
Wednesday Feb 28, 2024
Neurodiverse relationship expert Jodi Carlton discusses the issue of lying within autism, particularly in relationships. She explains that most people will tell 'little white lies' to avoid confrontation in an antagonistic relationship, and highlights the need for communication and resolving conflicts that can lead to lying. Jodi distinguishes between 'manipulative lying' and lying to avoid conflict, noting that the latter is more common amongst individuals on the spectrum. She suggests addressing any existing parental dynamic in which one partner might feel like they need to lie to avoid trouble.
00:00 Neurodiverse Relationships and Lying00:50 Understanding White Lies in Relationships01:32 When Couples Have a Parental-Child Dynamic01:46 An Example of Lying to Avoid Conflict02:17 Differentiating Between Types of Lies02:46 Recognizing and Addressing Lying in Relationships
___________________👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.
QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:YouTube: @jodicarltonFacebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarltonLinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
Friday Feb 23, 2024
BONUS: I’m autistic. Why do I zone out when people are talking?
Friday Feb 23, 2024
Friday Feb 23, 2024
Neurodiverse Relationship expert, Jodi Carlton, shares a tip about improving communication with your autistic partner. Autistic individuals think in images more than in words, so using images like photos instead of texting words can be much more effective in communicating requests to an autistic partner or family member.
👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.
AUTISM QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: @jodicarlton Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
Monday Feb 19, 2024
BONUS: Autism Relationship Tool - Images Versus Words
Monday Feb 19, 2024
Monday Feb 19, 2024
Neurodiverse Relationship expert, Jodi Carlton, shares a tip about improving communication with your autistic partner. Autistic individuals think in images more than in words, so using images like photos instead of texting words can be much more effective in communicating requests to an autistic partner or family member.
👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.
QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: @jodicarlton Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
Wednesday Feb 14, 2024
BONUS: How to Have a Safe Disagreement in Your Neurodiverse Relationship
Wednesday Feb 14, 2024
Wednesday Feb 14, 2024
Neurodiverse relationship expert, Jodi Carlton, shares advice on handling emotional responses in neurodiverse relationships. Jodi emphasizes the importance of acknowledging the validity of emotions from both partners, and discusses the problems that arise when fight or flight responses overwhelm the conversation and issues are not resolved. She suggests ways to manage interactions that are triggering in order to have safe conversations. Jodi highlights the key roles of reflective listening, avoiding judgment, and understanding that differing opinions and perspectives do not alter the value or feelings of each partner.
00:00 A YouTube Comment
00:52 Validity of Emotions in Relationships
01:12 The Problem of Unresolved Conflict
02:23 The Importance of Safe Conversations
03:20 The Solution: How To Handle Emotional Triggers
👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.
QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. 🎙
PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: @jodicarlton Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
Wednesday Feb 07, 2024
BONUS: Boundaries and Dealbreakers
Wednesday Feb 07, 2024
Wednesday Feb 07, 2024
In the bonus episode, explore the crucial aspects of setting boundaries and recognizing deal-breakers in neurodiverse relationships. Discover the importance of conveying both physical and emotional limits to your partner and learn strategies for explaining your responses to specific actions without trying to control your partner. Hear about the importance of teaching children about setting boundaries and feeling safe within their boundaries.
00:00 Introduction
00:17 Understanding Boundaries in Relationships
01:12 The Difference Between Boundaries and Control
01:46 Setting Boundaries in Response to Negative Behavior
02:00 Teaching Boundaries to Children
02:46 Challenges of Setting Boundaries with Smart Kids
03:06 Conclusion: Modeling Boundary Setting
Wednesday Jan 24, 2024
BONUS: Autism in Gay Men - Response to a YouTube Question
Wednesday Jan 24, 2024
Wednesday Jan 24, 2024
Recently, someone reached out to me on my YouTube channel and asked for more videos about autistic gay men. So, I want to shed some light on the topic.
It's important to understand that when it comes to neurodiversity and neurodiverse relationships, sexuality is not a determining factor. Regardless of whether someone is gay, heterosexual, or identifies with any other sexual orientation, their autistic traits remain the same. Autism is a part of who they are, and it doesn't change based on their sexual orientation.
In fact, the insights and advice I provide apply to all kinds of neurodiverse relationships. Whether it's a friendship, a coworker relationship, or a parent-child relationship, the principles of understanding and supporting neurodiversity remain relevant. The key is to apply what you learn here to your own relationships because at the core, autism is autism, irrespective of sexual orientation.